The Hiestand Family’s Adoption Journey |
OH MY GOSH!!!
I think that I am going to go crazy before this is all done… Teresa just called me a little while ago, and I was so excited to see that it was her until I actually answered. She sounded kinda upset, and it went down hill from there!!! I have to have 8 documents done over AGAIN! She said that they are getting very picky on even the notaries signatures, which she had told me at the beginning didn’t matter. So now I have to have them done over and then pay and take the time to have them certified and authenticated again. I can’t even believe this. All our documents were in Guatemala and we were second on the list for a referral and now we have just taken about 10 steps backwards. I am so sick of this! I know that it is a good thing to do this before PGN, and that is really the only thing keeping me sane right now! We have to go back to our doctor and my sons doctor which was so hard to schedule in the first place. And we leave a week from today to go on vacation, which at this point I don’t know if we are even going to be able to relax and enjoy. I was hoping to possibly have our referral by that time, and now there’s no chance of that. I’m really sorry, but I am just so upset right now! It’s going to cost us about $200 more just to get all those documents done over and we aren’t even at the point where we have the $10,000 yet! I know it will all work out, I just feel like I could scream right now thinking about going through all that paper work again.
Comment by: Valerie
108/15/06 1:12 PM | Comment Link |
I am so sorry. It is all so frustrating, especially when your child is involved. I sympathize, I remember all of the long trips to Trenton to get apostilles and the stress of the cost, and the disappointment of thinking you are in one spot and in actuality being 10 steps back. It’s taken me a good 2 years of my son being home to want to consider doing another adoption. Oh and not because of him…..he’s FANTASTIC, but because of the difficult process.
Hang in there! Remember, no matter how difficult the path is, there will be a child at the end of it.
Prayers going your way!
Comment by: Laura
208/22/06 4:25 AM | Comment Link |
Oh Melanie!
Have I ever told you about the time when we were trying to purchase our son’s plane ticket home because EVERYTHING was done except his visa and suddenly couldn’t get a return call from our agent? ONLY TO FINALLY learn that we weren’t even done w/ family court and had to re-do a document which held us up another 2 months?? They kept giving us information that was about another family’s child, not ours!!
It is utterly gut-wrenching……… the process is: cry and yell, stop, tell God that you know He is good and in control, believe it :), and do what you have to do. It comes a little faster with each trial in the journey and though the pain is always significant…God’s goodness becomes more realized each time!! It was such a learning time for us and we were so cognizant of just how God held us in the palm of His hand. I believe that as I kept my sights on Him in midst of trials, He rewarded me as my son fulfilled every deep desire of my heart…. everything I desired for my child was provided!!!!!! It continues to astound me! (I even was afraid he’d be shy and backwards and not at all like me… now I’m kinda wishing that I didn’t so deeply desire a non-stop talker ;) )
I also realized at an early stage of the journey for a child that I was making an idol of it all. I had to conciously remove a child as an idol and tell God He had first place in my list of needs…that He in fact is sufficient. (I am not saying this is the case with you… just telling you about me!) Perspective can be hard when deep wounds occur…
I will keep praying for you and your family!!! (Also, I thank you for what I’m learning about the pickiness of details now… as we begin the process again, I will keep it all in mind.)
With love.
Comment by: ginger
308/29/06 4:11 AM | Comment Link |
Hi!!! I am sorry that you are so frustrated right not. The frustrations will go away once you have your child in your arms. I am also adopting from Guatemala. This is my 2nd referral, the birthmother changed her mind at the last minute about 5 weeks ago. I had already been to see the baby. I was devastated and frustrated. Prayer really helped me through those weeks. I have another referral for a baby girl born August 4th, 2006. Feel free to e-mail me or check out my blog. It has all the horrid details. Take care and you are in my prayer.
ginger