I got the dreadful call from Teresa two days ago that we were kicked out again. I haven’t posted because I was to upset and typing it makes it real. But I thought I would let you guys know, even though I don’t really like to tell the story. I wish it was just a dream! Anyway, Teresa said that on our homestudy report, the lady wrote the phrase “they would like to have a referral by the time the baby is one month or younger”. Teresa said the reviewer thinks that we want the baby home by the time he is one month, which everyone knows is impossible!!! But they couldn’t get him to understand what we really meant. She said there is no word in spanish to translate our definition of “referral”. I guess they tried everything, but he just isn’t getting it. So, we have to have the lady who did the home study, write up an addendum saying we just wanted the adoption with a baby to start by the time he was one month, not that we expected him to be home by then. But the problem is, after she does this, we have to send it to Harrisburg to get certified and then to NY to get authenticated. This is more time and money!!! Right now I am waiting to hear from our home study lady that she has sent the addendum. Please just pray she gets it done asap and we can get it out by next week!!! I am so frustrated right now! I don’t understand why they have to make it so difficult to give a baby a good home. I just want our baby home!!!
Comment by: Laura
104/14/07 11:56 AM | Comment Link |
Melanie,
I am SO very, very sorry to hear about not only the 2nd KO, but the fact that it involved more process for you. It’s SO hard to deal with these things… but this is PGN. They pick at everything. Our agency made our SW write 0-12 mos. at time of referral… our daughter is already 6 mos. old… hopefully we get to PGN before that becomes a similar issue for us! It often depends on the reviewer you get. They are really just trying to make things as tough as possible. God is bigger.. HE STILL has a plan and you WILL see it!!! Your baby will be home!!!!!
Wish I could wave the magic wand for you… but all this junk really makes you appreciate your kids more in the end. It’s like labor, just more dragged out!
Praying for you!
Comment by: Melanie
204/16/07 6:02 PM | Comment Link |
Thanks Laura!
I officially hate PGN. And if we get kicked out again, I think I am hopping on a plane and going to visit Mr. PGN myself! I think this is worse than labor, because they give you drugs during labor. The only “drug” I have been doing is chocolate and it’s not taking away the pain. It’s only making me put the pounds back on!